I am interested in many things, including the process by which we make an integrity based decision and also how children are raised. So, I read with interest David Horsager's book, “The Trust Edge: How Top Leaders Gain Faster Results, Deeper Relationships, and a Stronger Bottom Line" where he ties the two together. He writes that every decision he makes starts with this question: Am I doing the right thing? And he argues that although most people know what is right, they are often challenged on following through. He cites the Challenger disaster where the O-ring manufacturer knew there was a problem with their functionality at low temperatures but, he writes, "rather than the heat of criticism, it kept silent. Rather than recommend a delay, it agreed with the decision to launch. Standing up for what is right is not easy." But he writes that people notice those who do what is right over what is easy. This generates trust and it is trust which leads to the good stuff promised in the book's title.
Now, onto the topic raising children. The adults we become are never far removed from the children we were. He argues that when our children leave the house we should not say "be happy." If their goal is to be happy, they may act in a way that is not good. So, on the way out the door, say to them "be good." His bottom line: "Shame and guilt are not entirely bad feelings. I actually want my kids, employees, and friends to feel bad when they do something wrong. People who feel shame for cheating, guilt for lying, and sadness for saying something unkind show that they want to be good" because if they do not, then they are sociopaths and sociopaths will destroy whatever they come across.
As the line in the song by the Eagles goes, never bet on the Queen of Diamonds, she'll beat you if she is able, the Queen of Hearts is always your best bet. Solid book, give it a read.