There is an interesting post on an ethics blog I follow, describing the heated debate between Jack Conway and Rand Paul. By the time you read this, one of them will have won the race for the U.S. Senate seat in Kentucky. According to the post, Conway made unfair attacks on Paul in the debate. When it was finished, Paul refused to shake Conway's outstretched hand. The blogger, Jack Marshall, says that while the attacks were unfair, Paul should have shaken hands because it communicates a powerful message: “ ‘This isn’t personal. Whatever happens in the future, my actions will not be driven by personal vendettas, anger, hatred or bias. I will work with friends, strangers and political enemies alike, putting aside personal grudges and grievances, to seek and achieve what is best for the public good and our nation. By shaking my hand, you pledge to do the same.’ ” Does this idea apply to lawyers? Is a handshake the same as saying: Clients first, lawyers’ internecine issues second? Look, I understand that it is hard to put intense feeling aside. Several years ago I was involved in a heated noncompete case. Let me be direct: The lawyer on the other side and I hated one another. It was tempting to put my needs (to beat her) ahead of the client's needs (get the best result). But doing so undermines the very idea of an ordered legal system. I centered myself by turning to art. First, “The Godfather: Part 2,” where Hyman Roth, his anger finally starting to bubble over at Michael Corleone's killing of his mentee Moe Green, says to Corleone, "[T]his is the business we've chosen; I didn't ask who gave the order because it had nothing to do with business." True. No one asked me to become a lawyer. We will get into fights and get our hair mussed up. As with a political campaign, tough stuff is said. You know what Roth would tell us. Second, I thought about William Butler Yeats’ lines in "An Irish Airman Foresees His Death": "Those that I fight I do not hate/Those that I guard I do not love." I know Yeats had a different context in mind, but those words, repeated to myself, centered me and enabled me to be a lawyer for the client, not a guy who just wanted to strike back.